to express or to suspend?

assalamualaikum

its been quite a while since i last wrote something here..

well not bcoz i dont have anything to write, but if u read all my post, i question things, so for the past few months, it seem like all my questions seem to have an answer.. its either that or im just lazy to write.. :)

the latest question.. to speak, or not to speak(good things)

it is clear cut that rasulullah saw said that if dont have anything good to say, dont say anything.. simple.. precise..

here's the thing, u have something good to say, express it or keep it to yourself?
kindda silly to ask
u may be thinking 'if its a good thing, just say it la'
yes it is but not quite..

one thing i know, when we talk, others dont, thus we can only listen to ourself.
its nothing bad, but i think its a pity..
coz u have the chance to get any new input..

there's always next time u might think.. true.. absolutely.. im not going to write about 'u dont even know if u have the next second' type of argument here, instead, i like to invite u to reflect on any group of friends u have.
ask this: who usually talks the most?

most likely its the same person each time..

my point is that if u talk once, u'll do most of the talking. even if there is a next time, it'll be u again. thus u wont have the chance to listen.

to me the chance to listen is magical. especially if u have the chance to listen to someone that doesnt talk that much. u'll be surprise.

a friend who does not really seems to be very pious can be the one who define the most complex topic to us, who make sense about things that barely make any.

another prospect is giving advice.. we tend give it too soon.. way too soon..
i always believe that there's reasons for every choice that a particular person made.
i really things that it is an act of disrespect if u say that his or her choice is wrong without hearing the reasons behind it.

still it is a choice, yours for u, mine for me, it might be different, but im sure there's a reason behind ur choice that i should respect. so go on, if u think expressing is better. 'khilaf is a blessing' rasulullah saw once said. :)
im not writing this to promote my choice, or to chance the choices u have made, im just inviting u to think.

a balance between both migth be the best option.. but where is the midpoint? can u point it?

p/s: im talking about choices regarding subjective matter, i.e non-obligatory