judge, judging, judgement

this post is not about judgement day.. (in case anybody is wondering)

not so recently i watched this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eXzUuKdfnRE

one of the lady said: i would like u to judge me based on who i am, and what i do, not on the way i look.

so hijab has become a method to free themselves from physical judgement. they feel FREE, LIBERATED.

but unfortunately that does not happen in malaysia

girls are judged by their hijab.

nmpk je budak tudung labuh, kite ckp baik

klu tudung takat bawal 45, kite ckp biase je.

pki je tdg.. perangai taik..

tk pakai.. well u get my point

so hijab is not as liberating here in malaysia as it is in north america, or europe. it seems so demanding.

still, it is not an excuse not to wear them, or not to wear them properly.

for the public: this 'judging based on hijab size' activities has to stop.

for the girls: pakai la btul2.. kn bnde tu allah ske.. sume org pn ske..

in a nutshell: dont keep urself bz screaming at people.
if ure 'the girls', say this 2 urselves: i am wrong, no wonder they're mad
if ure 'the public' say this 2 urselves: i should stop judging, no wonder they dont want to wear it.

islam should liberates all of us. so let it.

appreciation

assalamualaikum

we are all different..
thus we appreciate different things
some might say linkin park is rubbish..
some might say they are inspirational..
its what we all call subjective matter..
and all over the world we listen to people say about embracing the difference..

but do we?
do we really embracing it?

maybe this can ring some bell in those thick skull of ours:
the topic of religious related culture..
blurry?
try these:

how many times we simply label people as 'tkde adab' when that people say things that against our understanding

how many times we force people to look at a certain things the way we do just because
we are on the right side ie the religious side
eg: the topic of aurat

how many times we say someone as 'aqidah tk kuat' when that individual ask questions that u dont dare to ask (or maybe we just not smart enough to think about it)

for u who read this post might think i have something against this religious side, no i dont.

all im trying to say is,even if what u're saying is the absolute truth, it does not give u the right to say it to their face and hurting them.
unless all u care is delivering the facts.

facts need to be delivered, i understand that.
but facts is not some DHL parcel that u have to deliver as soon as possible.

my suggestion is, understand that person first. do not say anything from ur side until u really understand them. then make them think. let them ask, only then u deliver the facts.
if they dont ask. it just not the time yet.

they may not ask u again. but if they care enough about it, they will look for the answer elsewhere.

it takes time. it is painfully slow. thats why Allah really love those who are patience i guess (trying to be one)

assalamualaikum