pride.. not u? think back..

honestly.. i hate the fact that people taking pride in big spending wedding..

i maen.. if u want o show ur love o ur beloved wife.. then just show it to her.. y bother with the world?

ask urself this: y do i spend it here. WHAT DO I WANT FROM IT?
*of course u need to be honest answering that*

i did not wrote u cannot spend.. its ur money.. but y want to spend all on that one day? save some and buy a car or a house sounds much more realistic to me..

i dont mind if u want to spend if u have money..
but if u have to delay ur wedding just to save money.. that is just ridiculous..
just unthinkably unreasonable..

forgive the negative comment but that is just what i think..

lets think back: we want to live a happy life forever.. sounds familiar?
we all know money is important.. so y dont spend it on the happy life u wanted so bad?

all i can say is that y go such a great length to show off??
if u r bruce wayne that's a different story..

so i told myself.. i will try my best to eliminate every source of pride on my wedding day..

but another part of me suddenly asked: u hated pride so much, but wont eliminating the source of pride be the source of pride itself??

i cant answer that for the time being. the niat need to be rechecked to answer that..

do u hide behind ur words?

last post i wrote about how true u r to ur words..
this time its a bit different.. not much though..

aku tk hebat..
aku bukan star..
aku tk mampu..
n many more..

sounds familiar??

we, at least i, heard these a lot.. even used it before.. many, many times.

here comes the question: how many times these statement is used to to tell the truth?

u might answer: it is the truth, i'm no star n all..

my second question: how many times, u, or we rather, used these as an excuse? excuse to run away? run away from responsibilities? responsibilities towards the failures we encounter?

why it is so hard to say: i'm no good, YET. and i'll be better
why it is so easy to say: i'm no good, that's y i fail.

from what i can see, we r just scared. scared to fall twice. that's y after the first fall, we dont get back up. we tell people that we r no good, so that people dont expect anything from us. no more failure, even when it means no more success!!

that's what i think.. i'll let u ask urself. n think of an answer of ur own.. i already have mine..

2 sides of the same coin

people hv tendency, preference, regardless weather u r the observer or the participant in the particular situation..

let me elaborate, or try rather.

setiap imam perlukan ma'mum, dn setiap ma'mun perlukn imam

every general needs an army, n every army need a general

look at these sentences..
an example of 2 sides of the same coin.
the values are identical.
but the sides r different.

so next time.. when u listen or read about someone, dont just listen or read his words, probe deeper, listen or read his values.

coz all this value come from somthing i call 'ilham'
n we all know this 'ilham' came from Allah.

only the method god use to convey usually differs.
some get it from books, some get it from the quran, the origin cn b anywhere.

now if u r the observer, u now know the value of the coin.
so, which side would prefer to look at? coz u cant look at both at the same time.

then ask urself this: y did i prefer that side?
this question will answer which image u attach to which group of people. the good thing is that after answering this question, u will realise that the attachment is just an attachment. u wont be judgmental, or prejudice.

u r free. :)

how true r u about ur words?

i was imagining i found a solution to a problem.. (aircraft design issues)
then it was sharing it..

then someone that i share it with, asked me: y do u share this?

i kept the answer to myself, instead i answered him with a question: y not?

then he said: other people will have the solution without thinking, thats not fair, is it?

despite all the down side about sharing about it, somehow u (in this case me) choose to..

the question is: the reason, is it really u or just an image u try to project?

i dont mean that u cant change urself, or be better, or try to be better.. but ikhlas..

did not make the cut

still too weak!!

have to become stronger, better!!

God give me strength!!!

really need it and i believe it can only come from u